How to Deal with Wedding Photography Anxiety
Does the idea of being in front of a camera on your wedding day make your stomach flip? You’re not alone! Wedding photography anxiety is super common, even for people who’d never call themselves “camera-shy.” But don’t worry—I’m here to share some tried-and-true tips for keeping those pre-photo jitters at bay so you can focus on what matters: celebrating your love story!
Why wedding photography anxiety happens
First off, it’s completely normal to feel a bit anxious. Between the pressure to “look perfect” and the awareness that these photos will be keepsakes for years, it’s no wonder we all get a bit jittery. Even in Wales, where we’re generally pretty laid back, we still want these memories to be just right!
Here’s the thing - wedding photos aren’t about perfection. They’re a reflection of who you are as individuals, and as a couple. They’re about you, your partner, and the story of your day. So, let’s dive into some helpful tips to make sure that story shines, anxiety-free.
1. Choose a photographer you really click with
One of my couples and I at the end of their wedding day
Finding the right photographer is key. You’ll be spending a good part of your wedding day with this person, so it’s important to feel relaxed around them. Look at your photographer’s portfolio, chat with them in advance, and don’t be afraid to ask questions. You’ll know when it feels right! This is why I have a video call or face-to-face coffee with my couples before anyone books me.
A good wedding photographer, especially one who specialises in candid or documentary-style shots, will be there to capture the real moments without making you feel like you’re constantly posing.
2. Try a pre-wedding shoot
A pre-wedding or engagement shoot is a fab way to ease any nerves around the camera. It’s a chance to get comfortable with your photographer and how they work before the big day. And there’s something really reassuring about realising it’s just you two, spending time together, with a little camera in the background. The more relaxed you feel, the more natural your photos will be. This is also why I include a pre-wedding shoot in each of my packages - I want all my couples to feel comfortable on their big day, and treat a pre-wedding shoot like a trial run.
3. Embrace your natural self
The best wedding photos aren’t about perfect angles or forced poses—they’re about real, heartfelt moments. If you’re nervous about being posed, talk to your photographer. Share any photos you like and tell them about anything you’d prefer to avoid. You’re in control, and a good photographer will listen to what makes you comfortable.
Your unique quirks and interactions are what make your photos memorable, so embrace what makes you you. If that means a bit of awkward dancing or being silly together, go for it! I’m so here for it, and encourage you to have fun together.
4. Remember to breathe and be present
Wedding days can feel like they fly by in a blur. When you’re in front of the camera, take a deep breath, focus on your partner, and remember what brought you to this moment. Being present makes a world of difference. Think about it as sharing a private moment together rather than “posing” for a shot. This will also make your photos even more natural, and will add to some of your extra special memories of the day.
5. Let go of perfection
Perfection is overrated. Who wants to be perfect? Not me - how boring! What’s truly beautiful are the emotions, the laughter, and those genuine moments that happen naturally. Wedding photography isn’t about catching every detail just right—it’s about capturing your story as it unfolds. So, take the pressure off yourself and know that the best moments happen when you’re relaxed and just enjoying the day. Those are the photos you’ll look back on and treasure the most.
6. Schedule time for rest
Wedding days are exciting and full of love, but they can also be exhausting. Build in a few minutes for a quiet break to relax, hydrate, and maybe even sneak away with your partner. Just 10 minutes can do wonders for calming any lingering nerves, and it’ll help you feel recharged for more photos.
7. Trust your photographer
You’ve chosen your photographer because you love their work, so trust them to capture the moments that matter. Relaxing into the process lets you experience the day without stress about the final product. If they’re experienced with weddings, they’ll know the flow of the day and will be prepared to capture both the big and small moments naturally, and will ask for a list of group photos that are essential to you.
8. Rethink what wedding photos mean to you
The most important role wedding photos play are to be a beautiful reminder of the love and joy shared on your special day. I was a poet, and I didn’t know it. They’re for capturing laughs, hugs, and that unforgettable feeling of being surrounded by those you love most. Keep that in mind and let go of any pressure to look a certain way. These are your memories, and your happiness is the most important part of them.
In the end, it’s all about enjoying the day
A little anxiety is normal, but remember: it’s your wedding day, and it’s all about celebrating your love. Trust in your photographer, embrace the beautiful messiness of real life, and most importantly, enjoy each other. You’re going to look amazing—because love looks good on everyone.
If you’re putting pressure on yourself to achieve a Pinterest perfect wedding album by everything looking “perfect” including you, please be kind to yourself. A lot of photos on Pinterest are staged. A lot are styled shoots (where wedding vendors work together to stage and take idyllic photos their products with a model couple, styled by a professional), so aren’t representative of a real wedding.
I hope this helps make the thought of wedding photography feel a little less daunting and a lot more exciting. So take a deep breath, let go of the nerves, and get ready for an incredible day!